Recently I heard one incident which made me do a research on this topic . One of my friend’s mom died due to falling on the ground and hurting her head. After a month her dad passed away too which shocked me completely . Men and women face high risk of dying in months after their spouses die, research suggests. There is no such clarity on this happening so far. It’s either grief related mechanism , or they are the effects of ignoring one’s own health caused due to partner sickness or it is the love and care that one use to get from their partner emotionally and physically, which has been abrupted and ultimately disturbing the physical and mental well-being of a person.
Dr Ken Doka,gerontologist at the Graduate School of The College of New Rochelle in New York and a senior consultant to the Hospice Foundation of America said to Reuters Health in the study”What insulates people from grief and stress is a good sense of support. Be around for this person,
“Grief is extraordinarily stressful and when you’re older and frailer it’s harder to cope with stress,” Doka, who wasn’t involved in the new study, said.The loss of a loved one might make for drastic changes in lifestyle habits. Doka also advised to keep an eye on the surviving spouse to see how the person is handling those changes.
“Maybe they used to go for a walk every night but now they’re not doing that anymore. Maybe they’re not sleeping well, or maybe not taking their medications,” said Doka. It helps to be there for them and to be supportive.Spirituality and religion may also help some people get through a crisis, he said.Doka said surviving male spouses may feel especially lonely because they don’t know they need to be proactive about finding company.
“One of the problems widowers often have is the lack of support and one of the reasons is that very often the wife, historically, is the keeper of the kids,” said Doka.”She’s the one that called the kids up and said they should come over for dinner, so it’s not unusual that widowers will often say no one ever stops over any more, because they didn’t realize someone else was calling and inviting them,” he said.
Windows lives normal life after the loss of husband because they leave for kids. It will never be same but still they servive. They think that someone else depends on u so they don’t want to hurt.
Dr. S. V. Subramanian worked on the study at the Harvard School of Public Health in Boston said to Reuters Health in an email “The widowhood question is interesting because it is ubiquitous. At some point or the other one partner will die leaving the other and this will happen to everyone regardless of class, caste, socioeconomic status,” .